Painting by Samanta Winstanley
When we read or talk about self-love, self-compassion, or self-acceptance, we’re often flooded with affirmations of how becoming more self-loving will transform us in countless positive ways. Life will feel easier, freer, smoother, and more joyful. Well, yes… but there’s often more to this adventure than first meets the heart and mind.
In this article I’m going to draw on the wisdom presented in the Mindful Self-Compassion program in order to try and unpack some of the reasons we can actually be overcome with feelings of shame, anxiety, and even deep sadness when we begin to practice self-love, why this is normal, and what we can do about it.
Sarah Jarvis is a holistic clinical counsellor and a teacher of mindful self-compassion. This blog is a space to share practices, ideas, and experiences to heal, inspire, awaken, empower, and recognize ourselves in one another.